So I’ve been neglecting this for a while and I need to stick with what i said to improve my writing. From now on I will try to keep a weekly update of chapters of books and/or articles I am reading.
For the next couple weeks I will review chapters of “How to Win Friends and Influence People.” The book suggests you briefly read through it once and re-read it again in depth, and hopefully the second time reading through this gives me enough insight to write about it.
It is human nature to criticize, condemn, and complain (3C from here on). The author illustrates many cases where people, from President Lincoln to the author himself, have done the 3C and gotten themselves in trouble. The author researched Abraham Lincoln’s life and shares few examples from Lincoln that most people do not know about. Earlier in Lincoln’s life he was known to be critical and ridiculed many people as a young lawyer. However, after a duel, that was stopped before it started, with a disgruntled victim he learned to refrain from the 3C. The lesson that these people learned was that the 3C does not get you anywhere and brings more trouble than resolutions. The author suggests that the next time we get the urge to do the 3C we should think about the issue from the other person’s point of view. When we are able to understand where our opponent comes from we can come up with much more effective solutions to the problem. Most of us, including myself, are quick to 3C. But once we learn to control our bad habit and utilize the opportunity to look at the problem from the other side we can learn much from it.
“What would Lincoln do if he were in my shoes? How would he solve this problem? -Theodore Roosevelt
Reflecting on myself, I have made many blunders regarding this problem. I had been quick to 3C and did not take the time to try and understand the problem from the other person’s view until my early adult life. Even today I am still trying to fix this bad habit with gradual success. Personally, I have found that approaching the problem with the other person’s perspective in mind helps me see what they see and have a better response in the hopes of finding a resolution to the problem. This is a difficult task and sometimes I forget, but I try my best in fixing this problem.